GAMES FOR IMPULSIVE COUPLES – GAME 5: ONE-NIGHT STAND (PART 1)
Players: Playboy (husband), playgirl (wife), and authority (perhaps).
Activists: Both spouses. Setting: Hotel.
Game Plan: This game can be played with or without an actual authority figure—a therapist or a nonprofessional friend. (This book may serve as the authority if no other is available.) The authority instructs the couple to go to a hotel or motel and play out their impulse to have a one-night stand—with each other. However, this time they are to end the sham affair different than usual. Usually, the morning after such an event is awkward as each partner finds the quickest way to the exit. This happens because in a one-night stand a couple quickly achieves a false intimacy based on their impetuous sexuality— but they have not really communicated and bonded so that they can sustain a relationship, and they are reluctant to do so. Hence, the next morning they find themselves having been sexually intimate but thinking all kinds of thoughts about one another that they do not want to talk about. Indeed, they fear that talking about these things would be harmful. (In reality, in many cases talking about these things would lead to a deeper, more realistic relationship.)
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